“In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.”
Sometimes it’s very hard to let go of someone you love. It can be someone that’s very toxic or someone that just doesn’t reciprocate the same feelings as you. It’s difficult, it’s painful, it hurts, but the truth is we can all continue to go on.
My story isn’t for the faint of heart. For 5 years I’ve let someone I deeply love continue to hurt me in an endless toxic cycle. This is someone that could care less about me. I’ve devoted so much time and energy hoping this person will change. I’ve realized that I’m going against the basic principle of yoga which is to seek refuge in the attitude of detachment. It doesn’t mean not to care or have desires, but to not have attachment to the outcome. I realized now is the time to take a stand.
For those of you out there going through something similar, I truly believe there is hope. You can choose to have peace within. Yoga can be used to help relieve stress and help let go of someone that continues to harm us. It doesn’t mean you stop loving that person, but it means doing what’s best for you.
So here are a list of a few things you can do to help get over a loved one.
Affirmations- Words can be quite powerful. Just looking in the mirror and saying something as simple as I am strong can have a positive effect. Taking the time to say encouraging things like “I will not let anyone steal my sunshine” goes a long way. Affirmations are a great way to counter the effects of negative things that have been directed at you. These positive statements can give you the strength you need to get away from the negativity.
Mantras and Chants- Mantras can be described as a word or sound repeated to aid concentration in mediation. Om (Aum) is probably the most recognized mantra of all time (in my Kanye voice). This is a very sacred and very powerful mantra in Hinduism and Tibetan Buddhism that appears at the beginning and end of most Sanskrit texts. So what does Om mean? According to The Hindu Mandukya Upanishad, “Om is the one eternal syllable of which all that exists is but the development. The past, the present, and the future are all included in this one sound, and all that exists beyond the three forms of time is also implied in it.” In short, this is the sound of the universe. The vibration that this sound makes is very soothing and can have a calming effect on the central nervous system.
Mudras- A mudra is Sanskrit for a “seal” “mark” or “gesture” of the body that draws a specific type of energy. Most frequently the hands are used to perform mudras and they’re also used in Indian Classical Dance. I just recently began incorporating the Prithvi mudra into my meditation and savasana. This is one of the healing mudras that has many different benefits such as removing tiredness, promotes healthy skin and nails, and boosts self-confidence. There are many different ones to choose from that you can add to your routine to help you. Pictured below is the Prithvi mudra:
Yoga Chest Openers- Heart opening yoga poses are a great way to release a lot of the pain that is stored by releasing it. The heart (Anahata in Sanskrit) chakra, is the fourth primary chakra that means unhurt, unstuck, and unbeaten. Opening the heart can help you heal and fill you will love, forgiveness, and compassion. Sometimes we don’t realize our heart chakra is blocked. There are a few different yoga poses that can help open your chest such as Matsyasana (Fish pose), Bhujangasana (Cobra Pose), or Ustrasana (Camel Pose) which is pictured below:
So these are just a few different examples of how to combat a broken heart. I hope this helps. I appreciate you taking the time to read this! Namaste.